Deborah Tannen is well-known for studying cross-gender communication. She claimed that distinctions related to gender are constructed into languages. The role of language is also contemplated on gender by her in her newspaper column ‘Bossy’ Is More Than A Word To Women: Column’ in 2013. I completely agree with Deborah’s perspectives. The word ‘bossy’ is not an appropriate term and women must not be tagged with it. Bossy the term is used to define women who prefer arguing on the basis of facts instead of accepting that comes in their way. However, this term can work against a female in public life that is their childhood and family.

If expecting your subordinate to follow your orders in the workplace is termed as bossy, then similar terms must also be used for men, as they also stand in those managerial places too. Similarly, in the family the eldest child is expected to be the boss of her/his siblings, however, when she performs her role, she is perceived as bossy. Likewise, language is used by boys when they are negotiating their status and other boss perceive him as the leader and listen to him. Whereas, the situation becomes completely different when it comes to women. A girl is often locked out if she tells other girls what is good and what is bad. In addition to this, I also feel that language indeed can be restrictive.

To avoid getting locked out, girls often found using the term ‘let’s ..’ while communicating. Mostly, their language impact is soft in comparison to men. However, they are still judged. If they communicate in a requesting language, then they are perceived as having zero competence and confidence. If vice versa, then they are assumed as too aggressive and authoritative. Therefore, the term ‘bossy’ is not simply a word but it is a concept that shows the mind level of others. A series of conversations indeed is present in every individual’s life and they are carried out by using and understanding the words of the language. This also is passed and absorbed on asymmetrical and different assumptions about women and men.

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